Drug Addiction: Methadone Facts

Question: How do i help my boyfriend get rid of a drug addiction?

(Posted by: Mojo-Jojo on 2010-02-09 03:32:49)

He's addicted to legal cocaine and it has very bad effects on him. He wants to quit and he's been off them for 2 weeks now, or at least that's what he tells me. What should I do to make it easier for him?How exactly should I be there for him?He has a tendency towards violence and rejects any help/ advice whatsoever from anyone...So....what do you think I should do, how can I help? Thank you PrettyBoy, he refuses to go to a drug center rehab center, sorry....I tried that but he refused Again, I tried with the rehab center, it didn't work. I also tried telling his parents about it. A long time ago, he begged me to talk to his parents, if he got really addicted and if it got worse and worse. Which it did, so I talked to them about it and he swears he's been off for 2 weeks. He still has violent tendencies though. Another complication is that he's a cop. From my point of view, this relationship is over, I feel like I deserve much better. But I do love him and I feel it's my duty to help him quit in a way or another.

Posted by: WinonaGal on 2010-02-09, 03:46:17

Unless you are absolutely and hopelessly in love and can't help yourself, perhaps it is time to take a break. A person with a tendency towards violence that rejects help is not someone I would want to latch on to for life. I understand how you feel a sense of obligation towards him, but this sounds dangerous and something that my good sense tells me is not a place I'd want to be. If you were my own child and under age 18, I would be forbidding you to see this guy and you would be really really angry with me over this, I'm sure. Getting "legal " cocaine sounds strange to me, I've never once heard of it being given to anyone legally. Perhaps you live in CA or the UK? That is the only place I could envision legal cocaine and to me, it is very sad that someone can get something so violently addictive by some legal means. A rehab center or doctor all sound like good places to get help, though. If I were in your shoes. I would tell him that for self preservation, I had to stop a romantic relationship with him. I would tell him that I would be available to talk on the phone with him two or three times a week and that I am not necessarily deserting him, and that I would consider getting back into a relationship with him after he'd been clean for at least 6 months and was seeking therapy and dealing with those violent tendencies. Sorry, but this is exactly what I would be doing. May not be what you want to hear.

Posted by: PrettyBoy C on 2010-02-09, 03:36:38

Take him to a rehab center.

Posted by: PoisonGirlBlue on 2010-02-09, 03:41:21

I'd say rehab. They are trained to do this. If you don't want to do that for whatever reason, the best thing you can do is just keep on him for it. If he hits you, you need to walk away. Please, call a rehab center.

Posted by: Ben 2.0 on 2010-02-09, 03:42:49

I've never heard of legal cocaine, but I guess anything's possible! Be supportive, but remember that a relationship is supposed to be beneficial to both people - you deserve support too. If it's too one-sided, you may be better off getting out, especially if he has violent tendencies. If he has ever been violent towards you, end it immediately.

Posted by: ghost on 2010-02-09, 04:03:14

It's his issue, if he won't change you might have to move on. You don't want legal trouble or living in a life of criminal world.